Friday, March 6, 2020

Dear Therapist: I Was an Accomplice to an Affair will he be faithful to me?


Well you we're the other person, the accomplice to a adulteress affair. Do you worry now that the man you are with will do the same to you? Well, if this was you, you should have concerns! This could be the history of him or her, and your future together is like walking on thin ice. I would exam the situation very close, and encourage you to examine the obsessive reason this person feels the need to cheat, and why you would be drawn to it.

Being in this type of relationship will only bring forth great anxiety, that usually will not go away. It is important to exam why this person cheated in the first place, could be that they have a sexual addition, emotional problems, mental problems etc.

In case studios, it is proven that once a person cheats, from experience they will more likely cheat again. Even though you feel you have a strong bond with this person, the thought of how you connected will always be in your mind. And for that reason there will never be trust.

There is the part of your mind that will always wonder. When you have a disagreement, will he seek another? Life is never certain enough to say they won't.

It is important to know what type of person you are dealing with. Ask your self these questions. What was his past relationship like? Why was it so easy to have a affair rather then work on his relationship? How does he really feel now that he had time to be single? All these things will determine the outcome sooner or later of your relationship.

Also are you going to be able to handle this person still communicating with his ex. It will always be in your mind if he is thinking he made a mistake and wants to fix the relationship.

There is a saying once a cheater always a cheater. And if its happen multi times, then more likely YOU are NEXT!


                                                   

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